As a mother change is inevitable. Our bodies are constantly changing, our children are constantly changing, the dynamics in our homes are constantly changing and there is essentially nothing that can be done about it. But what happens when the change that comes about alters your entire world? What happens when the change is SO unexpected and SO life altering? Even the best of Christians can start to feel that urge to question the situation arise. It can feel like: Why me? Why now? Why my family? How can I handle this on top of everything else I have going on?
Personally, this just happened to our family. On Thanksgiving morning we woke up to find that we had not one, but two “visitors” in our kitchen. We immediately called the pest control company out to see what was going on because we’d never had this experience before and this beautiful day was most certainly NOT the day I wanted to have this experience. As it turned out we had a larger problem than we’d thought, and our home was invested with rats! As you can imagine this stay at home expecting mama was scared to death and began to panic over the safety of my children, my husband, myself and our belongings. This was supposed to be a day of Thanksgiving and we were pushed out of our own space (and I didn’t get to cook). I began to feel ungrateful for this experience. This went on for a grueling three weeks with no resolve. Being displaced from the space that is your heart, where you spend a majority of your time with the people you love the most is nerve-wracking. My home was my place of rest, rejuvenation, and release. That was torn apart for me. We were homeless and facing that is hard.
We searched and searched for a new home that fit our criteria and every lead led to a dead end. The end of the year is a terrible time to move and we hadn’t planned for any of this in our budget, hearts or minds. I felt unraveled and wasn’t getting any rest. As mamas we push and fight hard for our families especially to make everyone else feel comfortable especially our babies (you know the feeling).
I kept trying to remind myself that all of this was happening for a reason. As we are expecting our sixth child, yes we’d outgrown our old home for sure and knew we’d have to leave soon but we had a game plan for that; this wasn’t it. The small circle I chose to disclose this information to kept trying to remind me that God had a better plan for us and maybe this was the push that we needed to make that change happen. Of course it all sounded good but in my heart of hearts I still wanted things to just go back to the way they were. Home was my place of comfort.
Unfortunately they never did. This entire situation caused my husband and I to face some hard truths about finances, faith, family, friendships and our future (that’s A LOT to focus on!) We have had to focus on what not only what we’ve said over the years truly matters, but to TRULY focus on what truly matters. We haven’t had access to our belongings and “material” things and like life does this one situation has spiraled into many other small fires we’ve had to put out. Talk about overwhelm!
We’ve reduced our clothing and needs to just the necessities as that’s all we could really grab as we’ve been out of that house. It made we realize that maybe that’s where God wants us, back to the basics. Not consumed with things. We didn’t have a new space to move into and really had to make some hurried but holy plans (You ever been there?). You see sometimes people in all of their “helpfulness” will have you moving on their timeline and not on God’s. I can’t bust a move without hearing from the Lord first and so while it may seem to others that you or I lack clarity I believe every mama should give their problems to the Lord and wait to hear from Him. We don’t know what He will reveal to us in the midst of the transition. We might think this transition meant one thing but it really may mean another. Psalm 55:12 says “Give your burdens to the LORD, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.” Don’t be in such a rush or hurry that you cause your own self to slip. Channel your patience button by surrendering that worry and problem to God.
This transition reminded me that I can’t leave God out of any of our plans no matter how hurried they must be. I was reminded of Psalm 271:1 “Unless the Lord builds a house, the work of the builders is wasted. Unless the Lord protects a city, guarding it with sentries will do no good.” I had to remember who was building this house wasn’t me and the one who was protecting our home wasn’t me. I was reminded that I had to put my trust back to the one who built this home up, who enlarged our family and has sustained us all these years. If he did it for us here, can’t he do that for us in our next home and in our next space and in this next season?
Don’t we typically look back and say “Thank God I’m not who and where I used to be!” because we usually experience improvements? (And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. Romans 8: 28)
We can sometimes think that because one thing is coming to an end that God won’t be with us in the new season and space, but He is. He’s already gone before you and I. Deuteronomy 31:8 says “The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” Please mama, don’t get discouraged in the craziness of life or the pause of your problems. God is with you and there is no reason to fear.
Allow God to transform your hearts and minds today and be reminded that fear, discouragement, stress, and worry are not feelings of God. They can and will rise up in our spirits especially in the middle of a major transition but we have to learn how to suppress them with the Word of God. This is why it’s so important to stay connected to the Word and to a body of Christ. If not, it’s like walking outside naked in a blizzard, you have no protection and every element that wants to permeate you will. Find your covering, rest in God’s promises and choose to trust and not tremble.
We get the new keys to our new home this week and this is a HUGE transition for our family unlike anything else we’ve encountered. There are lots of little faces and emotions to account for and even my husband and I are doing something new in this season. I feel confident in my heart though that God is with us and that He is about to transform our family with something even more fantastic in 2018! I feel prayers are about to be answered and that all of this will make so much more sense to me as time goes on.
Focus on what’s most important and continue to pray without ceasing. Invite God into every hurt, every tear, every worry and remember what He can do for anyone else He can do for you. You are not forgotten. He is going to amaze you too!
Question: How do you trust God when you’re experiencing a challenge?
Servant Leader, Drinker of Coffees and Lattes, Mommy of Five sweet kiddos, Committed Wife, and Educator, with a desire to minister to millennial mothers.